We all have the tendency to step into the same role in any new group and endeavour. And there’s nothing bad about it per se. But when we sense our or someone else’s resistance, it’s an invitation to reflect and experiment.
So my default in any team is to ensure that things move forward: I make sure of a shared intention, commitment, goals, to dos, accountability, if noone else asks what exactly we want to create together, and how we will do that.
After a usually inspiring first gathering this role sometimes feels cumbersome, like pulling a cart on my own. Because the truth is that I love working with partners who have drive and create momentum, and when they don’t, I wonder:

Why don’t I just let go of this role, when I find myself pulling too hard?

Here’s the honest reason: I’m afraid…

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